On Managing Emotions and Why I Did Not Participate in the Hexing/Binding Ritual Against Donald Trump

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Regarding managing emotions, I count myself among many other people who struggle with this particular part of life. I had a graphic that I was going to post, but it seems as though it has gone missing along with so many other things I can’t seem to find in my house when I need them.

Anyway, the graphic goes something like this: As human beings we are vessels filled with all kinds of emotions, which is a good thing, in my humble opinion. It is the way we express our emotions and whether or not they are appropriate at the time/place we express them is the issue of the graphic.

An example: A parent with a 5-year-old child attempts to reason with their child about an action they have taken which the parent considers to be wrong (dragging the cat by one leg across the floor or by the tail; shouting at parent or other children; hitting or otherwise hurting another child are some examples of this). Of course, the child will be automatically on the defensive when/if the parent confronts the child about this behavior. The parent, in this instance has to choose what kind of emotion to display to their child: outright anger, which may lead to punitive punishment(s) or patience and calmness leading to a dialogue with the child which is done on their level of understanding so that the child understands that whatever action they have done was wrong and ways to figure out how to not make that mistake again. A parent may think that when this dialogue is done that their child understands and that the issue is done and that the child won’t make that same mistake again, however, that parent would be wrong. Studies have shown that the frontal lobe of the brain, which is the place where impulsiveness and understanding of the consequences of our actions live, does not fully mature until the mid- 20s. Here is a link to an MIT article explaining how this works. If and/or when the child repeats the same mistake over and over again can make the parent extremely frustrated and angry and this anger my overtake any previous ideas of speaking calmly with their child. The parent may resort to outright punishment (this may include time outs, spankings, or escalations of any kind of violence towards the child). (My belief is that any kind of violence towards a child, even spanking, is sort of a “gateway” to more and more mistreatment of the child. This is why I choose not to spank. I used to use time-outs, but that just fostered emotional distance between myself and my child. So, now, we use “time-ins” where we both sit quietly for about 5 minutes and talk about what we are feeling and what we can do that can further a healthy relationship between ourselves. Also, we discuss what behavior is inappropriate and what is appropriate depending on the circumstance. Always remembering to speak to my child in way that she can understand. Otherwise, I’m just speaking into the air, which provides further frustration for me and my child.)

Before any violence or yelling takes place towards the child (or any other person an individual may be having problems with), it behooves the person who is trying to manage their emotions in a healthy way to stop and take a breath or even walk away for a few minutes to try to get some perspective on what is really happening instead of having a knee-jerk emotional reaction. I’m not saying that emotions are bad. We were given emotions for a reason and in the right time and place,displaying one’s emotions is great and appropriate. For instance: I can’t watch two people get married, whether is man/woman, man/man, woman/woman or any other kind of marriage without tearing up a little or outright crying. It’s not that I’m sad. I just feel so happy at weddings and that is the way my emotion at that time is displayed and I feel that this is appropriate as long as I don’t go into some kind of loud wailing or do something else to take attention off the wedding and onto myself. That would be totally inappropriate.

Mostly the emotion I’m speaking of here is anger, but this can also be applied to thoughts which take us down the spiral into depression. When I worked in a Christian street ministry and taught bible study, I referred to this as “taking every thought captive to the obedience of the Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5) Even though, at that time, I used this method in a bible study setting it does apply to every day life even if one does not espouse the Christian faith. When a thought comes along about my past, for instance, I can choose to either entertain that thought or cast it aside and opt for a more positive and/or more healthy thought pattern. Sometimes we choose to wallow in depression. I can’t say that I haven’t done this. I have. I tend to have the most trouble with this at night after my daughter has fallen asleep. Since I don’t have anything to distract me, it’s easier for those damaging thoughts to creep in. Again, the challenge here is to choose which thoughts to entertain. This can be a very hard process and it takes some time for a person to recognize certain thoughts as damaging and/or unhealthy before that person can begin to stop the cycle and take hold of their thoughts and choose to move toward a healthier place mentally and emotionally.

I am challenged with this on a daily basis several times a day. It so happens that my biggest challenges are dealing with anger, depression and anxiety. I want to model healthy behavior for my daughter, but am not always successful. So when I am not, I have made it a priority to try to explain to her, in a way that she can understand, that I am sorry for my bad/inappropriate behavior and that I will do my best to get better.

I don’t think I’m alone in struggling with this. In my humble opinion, managing one’s emotions is one of the things our society as a whole is seriously lacking. We don’t have very many models to go by. In our culture of instant gratification, if we (as a collective) perceive that we are not getting what we want we tend to lose our collective shit and jump right over the fence into proverbial left field.

This brings me to Donald Trump. This person is not a good model for managing emotions. He displays such a lack of emotional control that he can seem to be petty and childish at times. I don’t watch him speak very often as I try to stay away from the “news” because it depresses me, but seriously, my five-year-old has better control of her emotional outbursts.  I’m not going to get into Trump-bashing, but suffice it to say: I did not vote for him.

A few days ago, on February 4th to be exact, there was a call for all witches or anyone who practices the magickal arts to perform a hexing and/or a binding on Donald Trump. I did not participate in that and here’s why.

  1. I subscribe to the belief of the universal law of “3 x 3”. Meaning, whatever energy you put out you get back times three, be it positive or negative. I don’t believe in “black” or “white” or “gray” magick. I believe it is the intent of the person performing whatever spell or ritual is done that makes it either dark, light or gray. Everyone has some darkness, some light and some gray areas. So again: intent is what matters here. If I had done a hexing or binding on Donald Trump, I would have invited that energy to come back and basically punch me in the face. Hard.
  2. I recently learned, after performing many binding spells, that whatever you bind is bound to you. A few years ago, out of desperation and fear for my life, I performed a binding ritual with a mirror or “bounce back” effect in it. Meaning that I bound the person from hurting me or my child and should that person attempt any harm towards me or my child that all the energy that was put into those actions or thoughts would, in effect, “bounce back” on that person. It’s sort of like a hex, but not overtly so because it all depends on how much negative energy that person puts out towards the caster of the binding spell. Now, after about 4 years, I realize that this person hardly ever leaves my thoughts. The hard part is that I do not want to think about this person, because I don’t want to draw that person’s thoughts towards me or my child. After some serious meditation on this issue and doing some research, I realized that as long as I keep this person bound with the spell, this person is bound to me because of the spell I did. I think it goes without saying that I do not, in any way, wish to bound in any sort of fashion (spiritual or otherwise) to Donald Trump. So, I left that alone.
  3. Whether for good or ill, Donald Trump is our president now. I believe that if he wasn’t meant to be in that position for some reason or other, that he would not be there. I don’t believe in coincidences or “luck”. I believe everything happens (or doesn’t happen) for a reason. I may not always understand that reason, but I don’t want to mess with what the universe has planned for Donald Trump. Also, and this may sound like it came directly from my mother, I believe that very soon he will have enough rope to metaphorically hang himself. I prefer to let him make his own messes and lie in his own bed rather than call on the spirits to do it for him. Again, I don’t want that energy to come back at me. I’m not judging anyone who participated. I think people, in general, should have the freedom to follow their beliefs. I follow mine. You follow yours. Live and let live.
  4. Finally, I don’t wish Donald Trump or his family any harm. I will, however, stock up on popcorn in anticipation of the day he makes his bed and then has to lay in it.

A Small Compendium of Dark Moon Magic Spells to Coincide with the Black Moon

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Dark Moon Magick

From ten-and-a-half to fourteen days after the full moon. The dark moon is a time for ridding oneself of bad habits, Binding spells, for exploring our darkest recesses and understanding our angers and passions. Also bringing justice to bear.

Dark Goddess Hecate

 

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“The Earth began to bellow, trees to dance
And howling dogs in glimmering light advance
Ere Hekate came.”

 

Dark Goddess Hecate’s celebration day is November 16

 

The Goddess Hecate was a deity of the night, crossroads, life and death. She was called Most Lovely One, the Distant One, Queen of the World of Spirits, goddess of witchcraft. To the Thracians especially, Hecate was goddess of the Moon, the dark hours, and the Underworld. Midwives were connected with her.

 

Some myths say Hecate was the daughter of the Titans Tartaros and Night; other versions say of Perseus and Asteria (Starry-Night), or of Zeus and Hera. We do know her worship did not originate in Greece. One of her sacred animals was the toad, a symbol of conception. She was called the goddess of transformation as she ruled over the various passages of life, and could change forms or ages.

 

Hecate was considered to be the third aspect of the Moon, the Hag or Crone (Carrier of Wisdom).The Greeks called Hecate the Hag of the Dead. (The word “hag” may have come from the Egyptian word “heq”, meaning a matriarachal ruler who knew magickal words of power.)

 

An ally of Zeus, she was accompanied by a pack of hounds.

 

An aspect of the Amazon goddess, Hecate’s chariot was pulled by dragons. Her symbols were the key and the cauldron. The women who worshipped her often stained their palms and soles with henna. Her festivals were held at night by torchlight. Every year on the island of Aegina in the Saronic Gulf, a mysterious festival was held in her honor.

 

Wolfbar (c)2000 Moon

 

Black Candle Magic…

 

The black candle is very powerful. It is one of the most protective colors. It can be used to bring a person back down to earth. It can also be used in various ways to uncover secrets. It can be used in meditation, to help us find the light within the dark. It stabilizes and awakens greater responsibility. It is most effective when burnt with a white candle. Too much black can manifest depression.

 

Use Black candles for magic with…

 

The God, New moon magic, Male energy, banishing Magic, Diet, Protection; Repelling negativity; Binding, shapshifting. Use black candles for mirror Scrying. Traditional candles for the dead during remembrance rituals at Samhain (Halloween)

 

Black Salt

 

Black Salt is used in banishing, binding rituals or to quiet bothersome neighbors. Magically used to remove negative energies from items, or places. Often used to remove hexes and other harmful or negative energies. Cleanse your magical implements in a bath of black salt and water… and then wash in a bath of sea salt to purify the item and allow in only positive energies.

 

A PERFECT ingredient for filling ‘Binding Poppets’ for a powerful outcome. Place a black candle in a pile of black salt for Samhain Remembrance rituals, sprinkle Ouiji Boards with Black Salt before use.

 

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*Making a black mirror at home

 

Here is a simple method for making a black mirror at home.

 

Buy a picture frame, complete with the glass.
Pick up some black paint at the craft/hardware shop, best use gouache paint, acrylic or oil based.
Make sure you have a paintbrush!
Disassemble the frame and lay the glass on a piece of newspaper.
Paint the backside of the glass with the black paint and let dry. (I recommend 2-3 coats.)
After it is all dry, if there is any need clean the outer part of the glass with winnow cleaner to make it extra shiny and pretty.
Place the painted glass into the picture frame the unpainted glass side facing outwards.
You can glue various magical items to your black magic picture frame, like herbs, crystals, stones, shells, feathers etc
Use with black candle, slightly tilted for candle Scrying, especially effective when the Sun is in Scorpio, October.

 

~ Barbara Morris

 

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Esbats

 

While the sabbats are solar festivals that celebrate and honor the Sun, God and male energy, esbats are rituals celebrated by witches and pagans to revere the moon, and the feminine energy represented by her lunar cycle.

 

Esbats, derived from the French esbattre, meaning “to frolic,” are gatherings or solitary rituals held every month on the night of that month’s full moon, to worship the goddess as represented by the moon. Some groups and solitaries may hold their esbats on the night of the new moon, however. It is also the correct time to hold an esbat, and some motivated groups or persons may hold rituals on both nights. Esbats may also be known as lunar rituals.

 

While sabbats are strictly days of celebration, esbats are known as “working” rituals. This is usually the time set aside for a coven, groups or solitaries to perform magick, such as casting spells for the success of a new endeavor, healing rituals, etc.

 

~ 1999 Lady Serenity’s Sacred Circle

 

Tips for Spell work

 

Fashion Bread Dough into Dollar sign and bake. Serve as a symbolic altar offering for money spells.
To terminate a marital feud, cut and cook cabbage during a waning Moon.
To keep the evil eye from casting its glare on you, carry a mojo bag filled with sage.
Be sure to let your hair flow loose during ritual work to enhance the power of the act .
Call on the crone goddess Bellona when attempting to communicate with spirits of the dead, offerings on your altar should include apples and bloodstones.
Accentuate the potency of a pomander love charm by including orris root powder as an ingredient.
When conducting a protection spell, light a black candle to absorb the negative energy.
Use black licorice as a deity offering.
Scatter black cohosh leaves in the corner of a room to evict a negative energy force.

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Binding Spell

 

The purpose of this spell is to rid yourself of the negative energies of someone who is mentally or emotionally abusing you. If done properly, it will not harm the object of the spell nor will it affect his or her daily life in any way. It will simply make the person powerless to mentally or emotionally harm you.

 

Perform when Moon is dark

 

Materials:

 

Small cloth doll,(poppet) leave the head unstitched until you are ready to begin the ritual Needle and thread

 

Some personal item from the person you want to bind (fingernail clippings, hair, handwriting sample)

 

Black ribbon

 

Black candle

 

Cauldron or other fireproof container

 

Sterilized needle

 

Piece of parchment paper and pen or quill

 

One candle at each quarter (optional)

 

Ritual:

 

Call the quarters – I like to use candles at each quarter to form a circle of fire for extra protection. Light the black candle Concentrating deeply on the person you are binding, place the personal object inside the head of the doll and sew it shut.Tie the black ribbon around the poppet’s head, signifying the binding of that person.

 

‘With harm to none, my will be done

I hereby bind you (name of person)

 

Your words cannot harm me

 

Your thoughts cannot harm me

 

You cannot harm me’

 

Continue chanting this or something like it until you feel power surging through you. Visualize the person helpless to slander or verbally and mentally abuse you while you are chanting.

 

~ Now, to bind the spell ~

 

If you have a sigil or a craft name, sign it on the small piece of paper. If not, sign your own full name. If others are working the ritual with you, they too should sign the paper. With the sterilized needle, prick one of your fingers and put a small drop of blood over your signature. Again, if others are working with you, they should place a drop of blood over their signatures. (using a different needle, of course) Fold the paper, light it on fire and drop it into the cauldron (which should be on a heat-proof surface!). Meditate on the flames until the paper completely burns away. If you are working with a group, join hands at this point and feel the power surging around the circle as the spell is bound. Ground and center

 

Release the circle. Thank the Goddess and God for their protection and power Bury the doll as far away from you as possible within the next few days.

 

“You are bound to that which you bind !”

 

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Spell to Raise Spirits

 

To see spirits, old European grimoires recommend mixing together aloe, pepper, musk, vervain, and saffron and burning this in a cemetery. We can adapt this for other locations (like those in which the spirit lived) by adding a bit of sweet grass or tobacco to a specially prepared incense. Create the incense on the anniversary of the death of the individual you wish to contact. This is then burned at 11 am, in the safety of a magic circle that also holds symbolic items to connect you to the entity. An incantation to encourage the spirit’s presence is:

 

“Guardians of the Spirit realm, hear and guide my plea.

 

When the witching hour rings true, bring my friend (loved one, etc.) ________ to me.

 

Other souls who hear my call are not welcome in this place.

 

Only the one known as _____ may enter sacred space.”

 

Repeat the request three times, twenty minutes apart, then wait quietly for indications of a presence. Signs include the scent of flowers or a favored cologne, a cool wind, movement of curtains, and candles going out or twitching erratically. Once you feel sure the spirit is with you, do not make it remain overly long. Take care of your business, say farewell, and thank the guardians for their assistance.

 

* Communication with and understanding the purposes of spirits:

 

! Word of Warning !

 

Spiritual entities should not be banished or called for amusement. It is best to contact a knowledgeable, experienced psychic for advice or assistance before undertaking any of these spells.

 

~ Timing ~

 

In-between times (noon, midnight, dusk, and dawn). Halloween. Seasons of late fall and winter. Moon in Libra. Eclipses. Wednesday.

 

Author unknown

 

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Witches Fivefold kiss

 

This was traditionally part of the ritual between the priest and priestess, as well as part of the great rite.

 

“Blessed be thy feet which have brought thee in these ways
Blessed be thy knees that kneel at the sacred altar
Blessed be thy sex, without which we would not be here
Blessed be thy breast, formed in beauty and strength
Blessed be thy lips, that they shall utter thy sacred names…”

 

 

To Curse a book

 

“By the powers of witches and mages

 

By the wisdom of crones and sages

 

By the Moon as it moves through its stages

 

By Hecate and lunar rages

 

By the Sphinx and for the ages

 

I craft a curse upon these pages.”

 

~ Author Unknown

 

 

To Beckon a Person

 

To beckon a someone, write the persons name on parchment paper in Dove’s blood ink, fold paper three times and put under candle holder. light a white candle that you have “dressed” in Rosemary oil and rolled in dry Rosemary leaves. If you have a picture of the person put it next to candle. Stand to the East while saying:

 

“If you are turning towards me
know I turn also to you,
and come to me in love

 

If you are thinking of me
know I think also of you,
and come to me in love

 

If you are saying my name
know that I say your name, and call you to me
and come to me in love

 

(name)
(name)
(name)”

 

Repeat as needed.
Timing; When Mercury rules, Moon in Gemini, Wednesdays. Leave the candle to burn out until you here from the one you call.

 

Witches Bottle

 

The Witch’s Bottle protects the Witch from all negativity for as long as the bottle stays underground. This spell is an important part of the PectiWitan focus of my tradition because once you have created your bottle, there is no need to cast a circle for protection.

 

Making the Bottle:

 

– Take a small jar and fill it about halfway with sharp objects such as pins, needles, nails, screws, etc.
– Fill the rest of the bottle with urine and perhaps a spot of menstrual blood
– Tightly seal
– Use your athame (if you have one) to dig a hole (Make sure you chose a place that is unlikely to be disturbed)
– Place the bottle in the hole and cover with dirt

 

~ Reference Scottish WitchCraft by Raymond Buckland

 

Witches Bottle Chant

 

‘I am a witch of ancient lore, I petition these trees, and forest floor.
Converge myself upon this site, spider weaving power and might.
Air and Fire, Water and Earth, aid in my quest, I call you forth.
Aradia, Aradia, I intone, thrice the power you have shone.
Open my spiral of strength and sorcery, encompass the soul you have granted me.
Pentacle of old, stones of deep, protection around, assistance I seek.
Marry my veins, to this Earth, Cernunnos I summon you forth.
Steele needles and pins, red blood of sins.
Buried deep in clandestine dusk, liquid Venus, scent of musk.
Hear my words from Moon to Moon, cite the Lord & Lady’s Rune
By the law of three times three, this spell is done, so mote it be…..

 

~ Barbara Morris 1999

 

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The Pentacle

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The most important symbol of Witchcraft is the pentacle. The pentacle (or pentagram) is a Witches symbol of protection and positive power. The five points signify earth, air, fire, water and spirit.

 

The symbol of Witchcraft, The Pentacle, is a bold and fascinating statement about our place in the Universe. The pentagram represents an ancient concept that can be found in philosophical thought in both East and West. Although over 8,000 years old, the image of the pentagram is applicable in our modern world. The pentagram tells us that we have the ability to bring Spirit to Earth; this applies to every area of practical day-to-day living, as well as spiritual thought. The ability of bringing Spirit to Earth is what makes us whole.

 

Earth: (lower left hand corner) represents stability and physical endurance.
Fire: (lower right hand corner) represents courage and daring.
Water: (upper right hand corner) represents emotions and intuition.
Air: (upper left hand corner) represents intelligence and the arts.
Spirit: (at the topmost point) represents the All and the Divine.

 

Wiccan Symbols

 

Walpurgisnacht is coming!

So ready your bonfires, get all of your old wooden things and load your little dolls with all of the ill-health and bad things that happened for the last year and get ready to burn them on April 30 or May 1 and celebrate the coming year! I will post more as the holiday approaches.

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Coffee Magick 101: Wake Up People !

Magia photo by Daniel Lobo. Text added. Licensed under CC 2.0

If we follow our minds down the path of Coffee through time we find that the history is rich. For those of us who can’t live without it – coffee is everything ! The following is a quick overview of coffee magick , drink it in!

Voodoo and Coffee

Coffee Veve for Maman Brigitte photo by Lilith Dorsey

New Orleans Voodoo pairs coffee with everything from blessings to bourbon. The city is known for it’s preference for coffee with chicory. Natives of the crescent city often add eggshells to cut the bitterness of the blend and give it a flavor all it’s own. This however is much more than just a beverage, coffee is used as a medium for drawing ritual Veves. These are ground drawings laid out in elaborate patterns to both call and honor the Loa, or deities. Most often they are made with white flour or cornmeal, but when laying out a divine space for Maman Brigitte, the ancestors, or Papa Legba, coffee can be the sacred sprinkle of choice. Veves are laid out using both hands to represent the journey into both the visible and invisible world, Veves can be some of the most beautiful and powerful creations to behold. For more information check out Veves Sacred Cell numbers for the Gods . Coffee is also used as an offering, be sure to see my New Orleans Ritual Voodoo Coffee Recipe.

In Haiti’s Vodou religion coffee is also used an an offering for the ancestors. Known as Les Baron and Les Gede, these powerful ancestor energies live on through the offerings they take. Coffee is only one of many offerings they are given including, liquor, food, flowers, money and just about everything a person living, or dead could want.

Santeria and Coffee

Santeria, also known as La Regla Lucumi has a deity called Eleggua. Eleggua likes it dark and strong. Hundreds of thousands of worshipers prepare a coffee offering for their Eleggua/Exu every Monday. It usually goes along with his cigar and literally starts the week off “rite.” Coffee, like the Orisha Eleggua himself, is a portal, gateway to possibility if you know how to utilize it properly. Many systems of magick have discovered this fact about coffee.

Crowley Coffee

Coffee Magic Godmorgon. Kaffet känns extra magiskt denna morgon. :-) by

It is almost impossible to talk about Magick without talking about Aleister Crowley. His own mother referred to him as “the beast,” and he loved it. Apparently the beast loved coffee too and he wrote the following invocation (which can be found on The Hermetic Library Blog 🙂

 

O coffee! By the mighty Name of Power do I invoke thee, consecrating thee to the Service of the Magic of Light. Let the pulsations of my heart be strong and regular and slow! Let my brain be wakeful and active in its supreme task of self-control! That my desired end may be effected through Thy strength, Adonai, unto Whom be the Glory for ever! Amen without lie, and Amen, and Amen of Amen.

Coffee Divination

“If you want to improve your understanding, drink coffee. “ – Rev. Sydney Smith 1771-1845

Tea leaf reading has stolen the historic spotlight here, and most people are unaware of Coffee divination as a magickal system. Reading coffee grounds, tea leaves and the like is officially called Tasseography. In the book Cafe Nation by Sandra Mizumoto Posey writes “ Coffee divination is once again enjoying widespread popularity because of the beverage’s long-recognized ability to energize….Sufi mystics knew centuries ago that coffee had the ability to aid in meditation and prayer.”

Turkish culture genuinely loves it’s coffee too, and for them the ritual is complex.TurkishCulture.org explains the basics of coffee divination telling us to begin by drinking out of only one side of the cup and when the cup is done place the saucer on top and make a wish. The site tells us that some believe that the cup can “ tell the past but only foretell forty days into the future.” Basically the method is to use scrying as a tool to interpret what you see in the grounds and or foam left in the bottom of the cup.

Coffee magic is a huge subject, and I could go on and on, look for more posts on this topic in the days to come, as soon as I’ve had more coffee ! And do me a favor, when you wake up and press those share buttons below, maybe more coffee will come out !

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A Compendium of Demonology and Magic circa 1775

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